The Road To Loving Me #42

matteo-paganelli-157464-unsplashI always have a really hard time when God lays something very personal on my heart to share with my Perspective By Zena T. readers and this has been one of the most difficult perspectives for me to put into words thus far. As always I pray that God has given me the words that he wants me to share with others, even if I don’t fully understand why he fills my mind and heart with certain words to share.

A couple days ago I saw a snippet of an interview that the entertainer Bobby Brown did recently, the interviewer asked him the question “what’s one lesson that you’ve learned that has aided in you being able to move on from all the bad times in your life?” Bobby Brown’s reply to this question was “learning to love myself.” I thought that was a very profound statement. Hearing those four words made me think about how the journey towards completely loving one’s self is not always an easy journey and I started to reflect upon how I feel about myself. I am at a place in life where I am able to admit that learning to love myself completely has been a gradual, endless process that at times goes at snail’s pace with many setbacks. Honestly right now at thirty-six years old I think I am just beginning to accept myself yet I am still trying to figure out who I am. I’m not even sure that makes any sense. There are many things that I love about the person that I am but after reflecting upon it I am just not sure I honestly love myself as wholeheartedly as one should.

nick-fewings-532590-unsplashPlease don’t get me wrong, I’m not at all saying that I don’t love myself, let me repeat that, I am not at all saying that I don’t love myself, I just feel like there are parts of me that are easier for me to accept and love than other parts are. I think I’m a great girl who has a good heart with a big capacity for love, caring, kindness, compassion and many other good characteristics. The reason that I say I’m not sure if I love myself as wholeheartedly as one should is because I always find myself asking God “why” in regards to who I am and my life. Why can’t I do this or that? Why can’t I be like this person or that person? Why did I have to be born with Spina Bifida? Why do I have to have so many health trials? Why am I such a deeply sensitive person? Why am I antisocial? Why can’t I be a better daughter, sister and friend? I’m not downing myself and I don’t want anyone to think that, I’m just telling you what God has placed on my heart and being truthful with myself and anyone reading this.

I have come to realize that there are parts of myself that I’ve always had a great deal of difficulty accepting therefore I am not able to thoroughly love all parts of me. I always feel like although there are things I don’t like and/or love about me and my life I am grateful for my life, but I wonder if having problems with parts of me ultimately makes me an ungrateful person, which isn’t who I want to be. I am beginning to recognize the fact that I dwell too much on my imperfections and not enough on the good parts of who I am. I admire confident people who seem to be in a place where they have learned to wholeheartedly love themselves, imperfections & all and are completely comfortable walking through life in the skin that God placed them in. I pray that God continues to work with me on my journey toward completely loving myself and allows me to some day look in the mirror and wholeheartedly love the person looking back at me and who he made me to be.

That’s just my perspective!💜

7 thoughts on “The Road To Loving Me #42

  1. Florence Andrews August 2, 2018 / 2:36 pm

    Thanks for sharing. He had given you that love. That’s why you can help so many to smile. Zena I hope he shows you what a blessing you are to so many. I pray you’re feeling better.

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    • Zena T. August 2, 2018 / 6:27 pm

      Thank you!💜😘

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  2. Anonymous August 6, 2018 / 7:46 am

    Wonderful read! I enjoyed it!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Zena T. August 6, 2018 / 7:53 am

      Thank you for taking the time to read it.💜

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  3. Jennifer Webb September 11, 2018 / 1:01 pm

    Zena, I think that all of us struggling with loving certain parts of ourselves and accepting out flaws. Its hard. I know that I am by no means perfect, and perhaps the reason why we are not is that it gives us something to strive for and work on improving. You seem to have a very close relationship to God, which I think is wonderful. One thing that I have personally found helpful is instead of asking “Why?” To change the question to “Lord, what would you have me to learn from this?” It has helped me to find peace in many things. Thank you for sharing your beautiful reflections and thoughts.

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    • Zena T. September 11, 2018 / 1:20 pm

      Jennifer, thank you so much for taking the time to read it. I totally agree with you, I am working on asking God what the lesson is that he wants me to learn in my difficult times in life instead of always asking “why.” I look forward to reading more of your blog. Thanks again for stopping by Perspective By Zena T.💜

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